tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post1574489691070262940..comments2023-10-10T07:26:23.616-07:00Comments on Aunty Christ loves all her children: Aunty Christ is lucky in bedAunty Christhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-27032315418681095222009-10-13T08:58:10.123-07:002009-10-13T08:58:10.123-07:00Cool. Yay linking. And thanks.
Oh I know, but I d...Cool. Yay linking. And thanks.<br /><br />Oh I know, but I didn't exactly mean entitled in the sense of privilege...I increasingly think it is the other side of the coin of insecurity.<br /><br />Oh and yes, you are fabulous and brilliant! Mwah. Mutual admiration is all good!butterflywingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16873407072604417252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-67441917045118098892009-10-09T16:25:23.207-07:002009-10-09T16:25:23.207-07:00Butterfly: Totally, I would love it if you added m...Butterfly: Totally, I would love it if you added me. I'll add you too.<br /><br />And to clarify, I didn't think you were calling me entitled, but it totally rang true to me. I liked your second post on the subject, too.<br /><br />Salty: Thank you. Mwah mwah.Aunty Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-72007459158568263632009-10-09T07:54:45.167-07:002009-10-09T07:54:45.167-07:00Fear of success is not that uncommon. That's w...Fear of success is not that uncommon. That's what I'm hearing. <br />When will you accept that you're fabulous and brilliant?<br />xoxojSalty Miss Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02603806796783950508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-18092090009103894152009-10-09T05:15:33.101-07:002009-10-09T05:15:33.101-07:00Hi Aunty Christ. Glad you didn't mind my linki...Hi Aunty Christ. Glad you didn't mind my linking - it just really resonated.<br /><br />(Your blog is awesome btw. Do you mind if I add it to my blogroll?)<br /><br />Yes - that's *exactly* it. A feeling of 'I deserve stuff I want without working for it'. <br /><br />(I didn't mean entitlement to sound too harsh, or as if I was necessarily applying it to anyone but myself - but then, it is good to know you got what I meant).<br /><br />I think it is self-sabotage though. If someone really wants something and believes they deserve it, they will do whatever they can to make sure they get it (or increase their chances of getting it).<br /><br />Also, life isn't fair, we don't always get the things we want even if we did work hard and had the ability, and people react differently to this. Some (and I know I have done this) conclude we are useless and there is no point trying.<br /><br />What you said about not trying so that you can blame it on your lack of preparation etc. is very true and I do that too.<br /><br />But also - there is fear of success. I know I have it, but I would feel 'who am I to have this', and in a lot of ways it's more comfortable to be someone who is something of a failure.<br /><br />It is hard to unpack, isn't it?<br /><br />Gosh, this is long. Sorry for the essay!butterflywingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16873407072604417252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-59338575113585236072009-10-08T18:24:11.132-07:002009-10-08T18:24:11.132-07:00BW: I'll post this here instead of turning you...BW: I'll post this here instead of turning your blog into a place for my BS, but I wanted to say that you totally picked up on something that I don't think I outright stated in this post (and perhaps didn't even realize until reading what you had to say), but is 100% accurate: That at least part of my problem is a feeling of entitlement. Ugh. It's helpful to be aware of it, but jeez. What does one do about it?<br /><br />Specifically what I'm talking about is that some of what I'm calling sabotage is perhaps just a feeling that I, you know, <i>deserve</i> (despite all evidence to the contrary) what I want, and thus don't have to work for it?<br /><br />So much unpacking to do. I'm sorry. But thanks for the insight. That's good.Aunty Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-3844206594473536052009-10-08T18:04:46.746-07:002009-10-08T18:04:46.746-07:00Hi, Butterflywings, it's always good to hear t...Hi, Butterflywings, it's always good to hear that you're not alone. Hey, I didn't know you have a blog. I'm surprised I haven't looked at it before, actually. Gonna check it out now.Aunty Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-37061679861872304332009-10-08T13:25:09.772-07:002009-10-08T13:25:09.772-07:00OMG - I could have written this post. I self-sabot...OMG - I could have written this post. I self-sabotage. Being late, not preparing, you name it.<br />I just wanted to say I know what you mean.butterflywingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16873407072604417252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-67524619861481501712009-10-06T09:36:33.287-07:002009-10-06T09:36:33.287-07:00That's good advice, Mark. And, I guess, it'...That's good advice, Mark. And, I guess, it's not like I haven't heard that before, but I tend to forget it and need reminders that everything's easily broken down into smaller steps, and isn't just a big chunk of insurmountable challenge, you know? <br /><br />So, thank you for the reminder!<br /><br />Ah, Gianna! I adore Gianna. She's good stuff.Aunty Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-30676642503593078202009-10-05T17:11:32.654-07:002009-10-05T17:11:32.654-07:00I do the same but with much smaller goals.
In my o...I do the same but with much smaller goals.<br />In my opinion, the trick to counter the "Murphy" is with logic that can not fail.<br />This means doing the completely mundane thing of making a paper and pen/pencil checklist of the steps necessary and checking them off one by one when done.<br /><br />Gianna of beyond meds put a link to a Jung story on discovering ones devil-possesion 2009 October 4.Mark p.s.2https://www.blogger.com/profile/10529811159862096782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-7359621427691226492009-10-05T14:15:19.579-07:002009-10-05T14:15:19.579-07:00One is not!
But yes, good thinking. From now on I...One is not!<br /><br />But yes, good thinking. From now on I shall always think like Maria Conchita Alonso.Aunty Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571645464531817170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805563054508448077.post-74566888645399718752009-10-05T08:05:49.967-07:002009-10-05T08:05:49.967-07:00The quick n' breezy answer that would be given...The quick n' breezy answer that would be given to you by a fatuous windbag here would be, "So don't think like yourself."<br /><br />Y'know, if one were a fatuous windbag, that is.rich bachelorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16273482345189891431noreply@blogger.com